So, you've realized you control things. Welcome to the club. Other people, events, or outcomes, usually by planning and overthinking, or freaking out.
Delegation, my friends. Delegation. And asking for help.
A lot of you have probably clicked off. Or you're at least thinking about it, right?
Hear me out.
I know everyone SAYS you should ask for help, but they never dig into WHY. Most think it's self explanatory. And so many (I.E, me,) began to dismiss the advice all together.
If you're like me on a typical school night, you're freaking out, right? You're stressed. There is no way you will get all your homework done tonight. You can't do it.
Realizing you can't do something alone sucks. It's a massive blow to your ego and sense of control.
There's a reason I ask my mom to help with my school projects. Or why I have a math tutor.
If I distribute work to another, or I get help, I can stop the cycle of freaking out.
It's hard to trust another person with a task that's important to you. Or ask a question or seek help when it makes you feel like an idiot.
But here's the thing: At some point, ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE will feel like an idiot, or be completely lost. Nobody can have the skill set of Julia Child, Billy Graham, Stephen Hawking, Robin Williams and James Bond simultaneously, although that would be AWESOME.
At some point, we all suck, and we all know what it feels like to suck. So no, you won't lose the love of your friends and family because trigonometry hurts your brain. In fact, they'll love you a little more, because you allowed THEM to show what THEY were good at. Heck, my brother made hash browns for me while I edited his Biology paper, and we both felt great afterwards.
Ask for help. We all love to show off. Plus, less work doesn't hurt.